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This is another example of why I believe that gay people should have the same rights to get married that the rest of us have. How awful this must have been for both of them.

Most any adult can get married. People might be very religious or not at all but they can get married. People might have eight or ten divorces behind them but they can still get married again. If their parents sign off, kids who aren't even old enough to vote can get married. Convicted felons, still in prison, can get married. But nope - - not gays.

I hope someday soon this country figures out how discriminatory we are being by denying gay couples the right to marry. Just like we look back now at how ridiculous it was to deny women the right to vote or blacks the right to drink from a white fountain, this will eventually be seen as just as hateful. That's my hope.




http://www.thepetitionsite.com/1/sonoma-county-ca-separates-elderly-gay-couple
thank you to [livejournal.com profile] slashfairy for the point.

Clay and his partner of 20 years, Harold, lived in California. Clay and Harold made diligent efforts to protect their legal rights, and had their legal paperwork in place--wills, powers of attorney, and medical directives, all naming each other. Harold was 88 years old and in frail medical condition, but still living at home with Clay, 77.

One evening, Harold fell down the front steps of their home and was taken to the hospital. County and health care workers refused to allow Clay to see Harold in the hospital and ultimately went one step further by isolating the couple from each other, placing the men in separate nursing homes.

Without authority, without determining the value of Clay and Harold's possessions accumulated over the course of their 20 years together or making any effort to determine which items belonged to whom, the county took everything Harold and Clay owned and auctioned off all of their belongings. Adding further insult to grave injury, the county removed Clay from his home and confined him to a nursing home against his will. The county workers then terminated Clay and Harold's lease and surrendered the home they had shared for many years to the landlord.

Three months after he was hospitalized, Harold died in the nursing home. Because of the county's actions, Clay missed the final months he should have had with his partner of 20 years.

Clay has literally nothing left of the home he had shared with Harold or the life he was living up until the day that Harold fell, because he has been unable to recover any of his property. The only memento Clay has is a photo album that Harold painstakingly put together for Clay during the last three months of his life.

Clay is filing a lawsuit against the county, the auction company, and the nursing home.

Date: 2010-04-20 05:37 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] govi20.livejournal.com
I just don't what to say. This is so shameful and horrrible. It makes you want to scream and cry.

Date: 2010-04-20 05:45 am (UTC)
msilverstar: (wtf? billy)
From: [personal profile] msilverstar
That is so tragic and so wrong.

The only comfort is that it was several years ago, and maybe things are better now.

Date: 2010-04-20 06:37 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] http://users.livejournal.com/tweedle_/
:( How dare they. I do hope things have improved out of recognition.

Date: 2010-04-20 08:47 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] lenalove.livejournal.com
Oh God. There are just no words.:( I hope the bastards who did this rot in hell.

And you know, I am pretty sure they will.

Date: 2010-04-20 09:21 am (UTC)

Date: 2010-04-20 09:55 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] owlgrey.livejournal.com
That made me cry:(

Date: 2010-04-20 10:52 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] alran.livejournal.com
I really hope he manages to leave the county, the auction company and the nursing home broke!

Date: 2010-04-20 11:01 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] alex-quine.livejournal.com
That is heartbreaking.

Date: 2010-04-20 11:22 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] bluedahlia.livejournal.com
Criminal. What an appalling breach of human rights. >:(

Date: 2010-04-20 01:00 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] helineloro.livejournal.com
It's terrible and absurd :(

Date: 2010-04-20 02:10 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] painted-horse.livejournal.com
Considering the fact, that California not to long ago gave gays the right to marry and shortly thereafter revoked said right again, presumably under the prssure of the "moral majority", my hopes aren't too high.

Date: 2010-04-20 07:01 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] danydadina.livejournal.com
that's so wrong

Date: 2010-04-20 07:58 pm (UTC)
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From: [identity profile] lulabel.livejournal.com
I read about this yesterday and was suitably horrified. On the positive side, I think when incidents like this become widely known, as this case seems to be, it will increase support for legalizing same-sex marriages. I think many people who say they oppose same-sex marriages haven't really thought about the full consequences of denying that right, of how inhumane those consequences can be.

Date: 2010-04-20 10:19 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] weepingnaiad.livejournal.com
The minute we trample any one group, we are all in danger. The bigots with their grand words about the 'sanctity of marriage' are no better than the Nazis.

I do wish the media was pursuing these stories more. Pushing the hurt and pain and horror that denying families basic rights causes.

I hope and pray that by teaching my children about these wrongs that their generation will stop such things if we can't manage it by then.

Thanks for reminding me to post this myself!
*hugs*
WN

Date: 2010-04-22 04:10 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] floatingleaf.livejournal.com
That is truly heartbreaking and appalling. Civilized country?... Not so much.:(

Date: 2010-04-23 06:23 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] foxrafer.livejournal.com
Just unbelievable. Nothing but hate involved in this.
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